Note to Self - October 2026

Note to Self

Started on an aeroplane.

I don't know what it is about flying, but it always seems to get the creativity and introspection flowing.

Perhaps it's simply because I've finally stopped and can't do any of my usual daily tasks. Or maybe there's something a little more magical about looking down on this incredible world from above.

Either way, this little collection began somewhere between the clouds.

Originally, Note to Self was simply a place to collect reflections, lessons and reminders. They were the kinds of things I imagined I might one day teach my children.

I don't have children yet, so for now they're simply notes to myself.

From time to time, I'll share one of these reflections here.

Today's note is this:

You do not have to be polite to people who are rude or make you feel uncomfortable.

As women, many of us grow up being taught to be polite.

Smile.

Be nice.

Don't make a scene.

Respect your elders.

Keep the peace.

While those lessons often come from good intentions, I think they can sometimes teach us to ignore one very important thing...

Our instincts.

I don't believe respect should be demanded simply because of someone's age, position or title.

I believe respect is something that is earned through the way we treat one another.

If someone is rude, dismissive, manipulative or behaves in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable, you are not obligated to continue the conversation simply to avoid appearing impolite.

You don't owe anyone your time, your attention or your emotional energy.

You are allowed to walk away.

You are allowed to say no.

You are allowed to make someone uncomfortable if it means protecting your own peace.

In fact, I'd argue that's not rude at all.

It's self-respect.

Too often we're conditioned to prioritise someone else's comfort over our own wellbeing.

But there is a difference between kindness and people-pleasing.

Kindness comes from choice.

People-pleasing often comes from fear.

Learning the difference can change your life.

Trust the feeling in your stomach.

Listen to the little voice that says something isn't quite right.

Your instincts exist for a reason.

Protecting yourself isn't selfish.

It's wise.

Note to Self:

You do not have to be polite to people who are rude or make you feel uncomfortable. You are allowed to honour your instincts.